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Hormones, hormones, I love hormones!!

Yah, that I do. I love hormones because they are the juice that make our bodies run…but in transitional times their ups and downs drive me CRAZY.

Take Yesterday. It was a day like any other day. I ask a child to take something downstairs. Very basic. It stays in the same spot for hours and many reminders later. A while later, I blow a patience gasket and tell them they better get that basket downstairs or they may see the last of my patience evaporate before their very eyes.

Basket sits there for another day. Until I yell. “If you don’t get this silly basket where I want it now I will make you miss whatever it is you are looking forward to today. ”

Basket moves. but then the clothes are scattered as he slams it down. “You don’t have to yell, mom. You could have just asked me nicely.”

Oh, child. You are fortunate to have outgrown me or you would have been put over this knee of mine…way down here.

I know this is typical pubescent brainlessness at work here. I get it. Everyone is going through it or has gone through it.

But add that to the complete lack of following directions in home school and then a fiery meltdown over simple math and you have my life crazy in a nut shell.

It’s not all bad though.

In calling me out with yelling, he was being helpful. He didn’t know it but he was right. I don’t need to yell. He was being cheeky, but made a point. So I am going to swallow all those lecture words “that I’ve heard before and I know everything and you don’t have to go on and on and on.”

No, child I don’t. And I won’t. Next time YOU wash your underwear, stinky socks and soccer shirt. I am no longer yelling.

Let’s see what happens then, shall we?

I do know that hormones of puberty suck all the brain power out into the great beyond. I hope the brain power comes back.

COME BACK, Teenage brain, come back.

 

And all the parents to teens sit and laugh at me.

 

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Pubescent awesomeness!

 

I was getting the feeling that I was talking to myself and saying the same things over and over again until I got sick of me telling me stuff. After a time my darling boy, who usually loves to please people, said “Mom, why are you telling me over and over to do things? I’m getting really tired of it.”

Oh, really?

This has gone on a while now and I am thinking it’s not just me being annoying.

I know that many children need reminding a time or two, but with J-man, he has always needed a bit of micro-managing. I can only tell him a step or two before he tunes me out and forgets the direction I gave him a few seconds ago. I’ve learned this the hard way.

For a while it seemed that either he was able to follow direction more easily or I was  getting really good at only giving one direction at a time or we were both forgetting what I’d just said at the same time. Either which way, apparently I was droning on and on about the same things all the time which annoyed him to no end. I thought I was just trying to get things done.

I thought maybe he was sleep-deprived for a while but it turns out it could be puberty. The experts say that children in this stage lose their minds, so to speak. Their brains are impaired by the chemical changes that occur. I would tend to agree by what I’ve seen of the junior high age.

I actually really love this age, if you were wondering. It’s my favorite age group to work with as far as being in the ministry. Pre-teens or early teens are weird and funky (smell ain’t everything!) and they are thrilled when adults are weird too. The Reverend and I fit in well 😉

I suppose that we will get a lot of practice “loving” this stage because, as we did with babies and toddlers, we are going to be going through it for a while,now that we’ve started it.